Oct 23, 2009
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Oct 17, 2009
Once i was seeing this guy & he told me that he could not be the gentleman that i was looking for.. guess he was right.. and we parted as friends..
To most people, being a gentleman may be an antiquated idea.. but then i'm not talking about someone who holds the door for you or pull out the chair for you.. i'm talking about someone who would put you first above all. One who respects you. and my elders (and theirs). One who is responsible. One who could be the head of the family. One who would do anything to see you smile.
As a Malay, "orang yang beradap" (err loosely translated as one who knows his manners or the local culture) is quite important. As least to my family. We deal with our elders, our relatives, guests, etc on daily basis. There are time & places for everything. The right way to entertain them. How you mingle/speak with them. The things expected from you. How you treat your parents. What do you do when there are guests.. What you can or cannot do.. etc...
There are rules for everything. It's difficult to remember them all. I know. I try & I still get it wrong... :( and imagine that i'm talking about now. not centuries back, when the rules are way, way more rigid. nor am i talking about being around royalties or high society and whatnots. just your basic day-to-day manners.
My father is a true gentleman. In fact, most men of his generation are. But my generation take these things as unimportant.. remeh... something that is outdated. but how can good manners be outdated? I have to say, i've known some, but most men i meet these days.. hmm... are nice guys, but by no means are they gentleman. Or am i expecting too much?
Erghh... I just got back from my cuz, MizWI's open house.. the only thing about going to such a big open house, i have to wait til most of the guest have left to even chat with the hosts.. haha.. but it did give me time to catch up with my other cuz, MdmIN.
MdmIN, the only daughter of my mum's only sister, is about 6 years younger than me. She used to live with me, along with her 2 older brothers throughout our school years. After i left for the UK, and these was during her rebelious teen years (after her mother passed away), she left us to live with her father. She got married immediately after graduating from school despite our protests. We were of course disappointed as she was a smart student & could have gone quite far in her studies, if she had concentrated on it. Instead, by the age of 19, she's already a mother of 1 (now she has 2 boys) and living under the same roof as her in-laws. Couldnt have been easy..
Anyway, recently we have rekindled our relationship.. well, we have kept in touch, meet up every now & then after she got married of course, but was never that close really. She was concentrating on her husband & young son at the time, as well as juggling classes & work plus housework. Hence, the distance... But nowadays, she's gotten much better hold of handling her 2 boys and i think she's completed her studies to-date & has gotten a better job at an international school. She also just bought a house & moved in last weekend.
Which makes me realized, that the young, restless & rebellious teen that i've known, had finally grown up & became quite a lady. Wasnt an easy journey, but she has really matured & at peace with herself. She said that a lot of it was thanks to her husband, who although himself quite young when they got married, was able to tame & guide her to be who she is today. The husband, is one of the most nicest man i've had the pleasure to know. He is curtious, very pleasant & always willing to help. He'd offer to wash the plates even when he's the guest at our house. Orang kata "beradap" la budak nya.. She has been quite lucky to have found a man such as him in her life.
Oct 14, 2009
I'll be the first to admit that i have absolutely no clue when it comes to relationships & love & whatnots. But surely there is someone out there for me?
These days i spend more time "alone"... i dont meet-up with the girls that often.. i can spend the whole weekend without seeing anyone.. i even go to the movies on my own now (coz i got tired of waiting for a movie-buddy & end up missing the shows, then have to wait til it comes out on dvd *pout*).. shocking huh.. so not good for the soul..
Am i depressed? Not really. I've been down before, and i'm way better now. But it's scary how easy i'm accepting this "single" lifestyle. When i meet Mr Potentials, part of me is just too scared/lazy(?) to do anything.. not exactly helping huh.. hehe..
p/s: i've been trying to get this guy to ask me out & he's still not getting it.. sheesh.. & yes, i've considered asking him out, but at the moment, maybe not.. we'll see.. i mean i like him & all, but i'm not sure either if i want to take it further than just friends.. hehe.. i cant even make up my mind.. *blush*..
Ya Allah, bukan aku tak yakin, tapi kadang kala aku tak cukup sabar. tak cukup tawakal. Mungkin ini ujianMu buat ku. Mungkin ini 'teguran' Kau padaku, supaya lebih dekat padaMu. InsyaAllah.. akan ku cuba.
Aku yakin bahawa Allah pasti akan berikan yang terbaik dan ada hikmah di sebalik segala-gala ketentuan Allah itu.
Oct 12, 2009
Today’s MUSING MONDAYS post is about books on your top book lists…
This past week, Borders re-released it’s 100 Favourite Books of All Times. Do you vote in these kinds of polls when they arise? Do you look through the list, or seek out books featured?
I love to check out such list, to try to include some of the items into my TBR pile... But i dont always keep track of them, therefore i never have them on hand or use them as basis when i go looking for books.. however, i've tried out some "best-sellers" out there & some of it, i just dont get it.. :( well, i guess not everything can cater to everyone's taste. So yes, i do check those books out, but not necessarily seek them specifically.
Vote? i dont think i've come across the polls, although i've seen lots of lists by various sources before.
p/s: Oh no, I've only read 19 out of the 100 listed in the Borders' list.. Hmm.. must keep up with the trend *wink*... hahah.. My Book 20 (Markus Zusak -The Book Thief) is patiently waiting it's turn on my shelf..
Oct 11, 2009
9. Smooth Sailing On The Friendship
Have you ever lost a friend because they were crushing on you and turning the relationship into something more serious failed? I agree with our Mind of Man. Friends should fall for you and vice versa. If they’re not, something is rotten in the state of your ability to romance. Seek further self-realization.
"Friends should fall for you" ? For real? I wouldnt know if any of my friends had 'crushes' on me coz they'd never tell me anyway.. so far that i know, only 1 had approached me before.. but then i happen to met The Ex at the same time. I've heard rumours that there were.. but i wished they had came up to me about it. I wouldnt laugh at you (at least i think so.. hehe), but i might be laughing at the idea of it, so dont take it personally..
But seriously, i dont get it why people think that i'm intimidating.. or that they think that i'm already in a relationship when i'm not.. i've got something stamped over my forehead, is it? shessh...
1. You Can Go To A Crowded Bar And Not Meet Someone
Hot stuff, all you gotta do is smile at some guy and he’ll melt like butter. Bonus points if you can actually get a sentence out.
Another suggestion given by the article... hmm.. i've smiled and smiled and smiled at that cute guy next door & he still barely talks to me.. hmmmphh.. doesnt help that he's usually hanging outside the house with his bro & other housemates.. i'm already bad at small talks & approching people.. so approching a group of guys? err..so not happening..
Oct 10, 2009
Anne of Green Gables by L.M. Montgomery
My rating: 5 of 5 stars
I fell in love with Anne of Green Gables after watching the tv series back when i was still in school. I just loved the setting and of course, the main character Anne. However, i never managed to get hold of the book before, somehow.. Better late than never..
The story revolves around Anne Shirley, a red-haired orphan who was sent to live with Marilla & Matthew Cuthbert. These elderly sibling originally requested for a boy to help them around their farm, so imagine their surprise when Anne arrived. But Anne managed to charm them with her imagination and love of life despite her origins. This first book in the series follows through Anne's various escapades, along with her "bosom buddy" Diana Barry until her return from Queen's.
Anyway, reading this brought back lots of memories (visuals from the tv series) so i can totally "see" some of Anne's hilarious expressions.. my favourite would be of Anne smashing her board over her classmate, Gilbert Blythe's head for calling her "carrot", resulting in long-term rivalry between them. Totally hilarious..
The only setback about watching the tv series first before the book, i tend to skip LM Montgomery's detailed description of the scenery because it was just too long. But i supposed that if i had read the book first, it would have been essential to vividly paint out the storyline.
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Oct 7, 2009
I saw Ceri from Not in the Pink's review on this movie & just had to see it for myself.. and boy, was it worth it..
The story's tagline is: Boy meets Girl. Boy falls in love. Girl doesn't.
Summary: After it looks as if she's left his life for good this time, Tom Hansen (Joseph Gordon-Levitt from the 3rd Rock from the Sun) reflects back on the just over one year that he knew Summer Finn (Zooey Deschanel). Despite being physically average in almost every respect, Summer had always attracted the attention of men, Tom included. For Tom, it was love at first sight when she walked into the greeting card company where he worked, she the new administrative assistant. Soon, Tom knew that Summer was the woman with whom he wanted to spend the rest of his life. Although Summer did not believe in relationships or boyfriends - in her assertion, real life will always ultimately get in the way - Tom and Summer became more than just friends. Through the trials and tribulations of Tom and Summer's so-called relationship, Tom could always count on the advice of his two best friends, McKenzie and Paul. However, it is Tom's adolescent sister, Rachel, who is his voice of reason. After all is said and done, Tom is the one who ultimately has to make the choice to listen or not.
As the movie emphasized, this is NOT a love story, but it is a story about love. I liked how simple and real the movie was. Tom, being a hard romantic, is a character that you can't help but love. Even when he is being soo stupid about things e.g. like when he first asked Summer out.. but in a sweet way of course.. I dont really know Zooey Deschanel, but she was perfect as Summer. Kind of quirky. Even when she tells Tom that she doesn't want anything serious, you just can't hate her..
I would so recommend that you watch this movie.. you wont be dissapointed.. *wink*..
Oct 5, 2009
Today’s MUSING MONDAYS post is about books on your wishlist…
Last week we talked about keeping a wishlist. Why not pull out that list and show us some of the books you’ve been eyeing off?
My wishlist is probably miles long, but since i've never keep track of it... i wouldnt know.. plus, i doubt anyone would actually buy me any books.. haha.. since i dont celebrate christmas, christmas gift is out of the question.. birthdays? hmm.. in this digital age, i get more smses & fb wishes rather than actual birthday cards or gifts.. and the gifts i do get, are usually not books.. ;p
But no fear, with all the reviews i see in Goodreads and book blogs that i follow, i just had to start a wishlist over at Goodreads just to keep track of all those interesting reads that are being recommended. If no one else will buy it for me, i'd just have to buy them myself so there.. haha.. But obviously this is by no means a complete list.
But right now, the top of my wishlist is Nicholas Sparks's The Last Song & Richelle Mead's Blood Promise (Vampire Academy #4).
I still cant decide whether i want to read Dan Brown & Audrey Niffenegger's latest books. The former coz i'm wondering whether it is another carbon copy of the Da Vince Code. The latter coz i just love The Time Traveller's Wife & not sure whether this one can exceed the expectation. Either way, i'll most likely to try and get hold of these books, but definitely not planning to buy the hard cover.
Oct 2, 2009
Suggested by Monibo: Saw this article (from March) and thought it would make a good BTT confessional question: Two-thirds of Brits have lied about reading books they haven’t. Have you? Why? What book?
Me, lie? err.. not that i can recall.. haha... but then, the only reason would be, the fact that i read at all already "impresses" people (though for the life of me, i cant see what's the big deal about it.. hehe.. i still have not reached that 100 books per year target yet..)...
However, i supposed if i'm in a crowd of folks who have read some great literature, i suppose i'd probably end up just keeping quiet rather than speak & make known that i've not read of the book that they are raving about.. hehe..
Oct 1, 2009
I've been so lazy to update my blogs these days.. so many other distractions in the way.. haha..
Eid have been chaotic as usual.. with the frenzy preparation, family gatherings & visiting, eid drama (& i dont mean the ones on the telly).. it was finally a relief to reach back home.. good thing not too many people knew my parents came back with me to KL, or they'd come in droves to "beraya" with us... hehe.. either that or they themselves are not back from their own hometown..
i didnt managed to get much pictures as i planned, mainly coz gossipping with the aunts or stuffing my face with food was much more tempting.. haha.. below are some of those fabulous food made by my mum...
The "Ketupat Palas" - before & after cooking
Chicken Rendang, Chocolate Cake & Fruit Cake
The Raya cookies
Of course, i couldnt resist taking the photos of these cute girls during lunch by our ex-neighbour.. The middle girl (in the bed) was playing host to the other 2, and you can see what an impressive host she makes.. lol...
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